It is next to impossible to find a Human Being who has never cried and felt the pain of a troubled relationship. But even then, we all are naturally inclined to have and enjoy our relations and are trying to find a meaning of our lives in our relationships. These relationships can either be basic relationships which we are awarded since our birth (like mother, father, brothers and sisters); or the created relationships like friends, spouse and partners etc. In order to be successful in creating and maintaining our relations, we need to know and understand the core factor of all relationships. The very factor which is important and responsible for the success of a relationship is “Transparency”. The other factors like love, caring and trust etc. are also very important, but these factors start to fade if the transparency is not maintained as per the requirement of the relationship. The more transparent you are in a relationship, more you can enjoy and expect from it.
We, the Humans, are very suspicious by nature. No matter how hard we try to pretend or impersonate, but the suspicion of losing a relationship is always there, which prevents us from doing anything which may endanger the relation. And this fear of losing adds care and spice to a relation. Being transparent in a relationship means allowing the other person to see our true and free nature which is far away from what we impersonate in the society. But this cannot be done on the basis of some fixed thumb rule and we have to have different borderlines for different relationships.
All relations depend upon a few important components like what we expect from our relationship; what the other person, with whom we are in relation, expects from us; and what are the circumstances for fulfilling these expectations. Close Personal Relations like parents and spouse demand more transparency than any other relation while socio-customary relations like professional relations (friends and relatives etc.) need to be taken care off to the extent that both sides can keep their interest safe. Persons with whom we are in close and personal relationship are too much depended on us as compared to other socio-customary relations. Hence, they have a natural need to be sure that they are being given due care and attention and that they are with the right person. And, it is only because of this factor that we see the intense relationships being destroyed on apparently small issues. While in socio-customary relationships, both sides are always ready for a disagreement on one or other issue depending upon the circumstances; In personal relationships there is no place for disagreement because the life of both parties is directly related with it.
For example, you had some plan of meeting someone for business purpose, but you fail to generate business after the meeting. You lose business but you are still having other options open to try with some other plan to have business from the same person or you can try the same plan with other person to generate business. While on the other side, if you had some plans of spending time in your personal relations and not being able to do that; things will not be same as in the case of business meeting. Even if no one accuses of being careless, you still have a guilt feeling in yourself of not being able to cherish the joy of being with someone you love.
Now, astrology can be of very good help in these matters. I can help you in identifying the areas where you should be careful in your personal as well as other type of relations. I can also help you in dealing with troubled relations and managing them to reach an amicable settlement. Besides, choosing professional as well as personal relation can also be done with astrology so that you choose your relation in accordance with your nature. This is done on the basis of some clear factors of human psychology and astrology and in accordance after considering the following factors:
What are and what should be your expectations from a relationship? Like, if you are looking to enter a personal relationship, it will be of great help to know if your potential partner/friend/relation can be fruitful enough to fulfill your requirements from that relation or otherwise.
What is expected from you in the relationship? This is actually been immensely helpful in creating/managing relationships. Everyone has his/her different set of priorities in life; but many times we are not aware of it and this can cause some major problems despite our being honest and dedicated in a relationship. For example, a person who is aspiring to achieve success would like his/her life partner/beloved/spouse to be extra caring and supportive so that he/she can remain focused in achieving his goals. And, if in that case, he/she is in relation with a person, who is also having the similar frameset of mind of achieving success; one of them has to sacrifice his/her interests for the other partner. Otherwise, despite being both persons dedicated and honest, the relationship won’t work. And, the transparency factors works very well over here, because it is only after being transparent that we can allow and help the other person to see the real side of us.
What are the circumstances at the moment? Will the circumstances allow us to be happy in a specific relationship or we will have to struggle? This is another aspect which is to be analyzed for judging the strength and potential of a relationship. It so happens sometimes that despite both sides being in total agreement and understanding of each other’s needs and despite willing to put their best for the relationship, the circumstances are not favorable. And this leads to confusion and pain. Astrology can be of immense help in such matters by clarifying the hidden doubts and making both sides understand the need of the hour.
For example, Presto was in love with Maggy, who was physically challenged. And he was willing to do anything to marry her (Maggy). And even Maggy was in total love with Presto and ready to support him at all levels. When the couple approached for astrological assistance on the issue, I told them that though they both were very much compatible to each other, but they must avoid getting into the relationship for next couple of years. The reason was both were undergoing negative influence of planets for next couple of years; and entering into marital bond at that time would not be suitable for professional, financial and social point of view.
But Presto was not ready to listen. His argument was apparently valid and logical, he said that when we are in love and even astrologically compatible, what is the reason to wait for another 2-3 years. I tried to help in understanding that he had just started his business venture and running under heavy loan. Though, the business was good at that time but there were some expected issues in recent future. Similarly, in Maggy’s chart there were some expected problems on parental side. If they got married during such negative aura of planets, they may not be able to enjoy a peaceful and happy married life. I tried to tell him that astrology is not about merely predicting the things; it is more about managing our ventures and life, well in advance and according to the expected circumstances.
But despite all that Presto went for marriage. Within next 6-8 months, his business started having some normal financial problems; but because he had spend a good amount of money on his marriage/honeymoon, those minor problems were very grave for him as compared to his other business competitors. Furthermore, being newly married, he had not been able to give the amount of time in his business, as he used to give before marriage. In addition to that, Maggy’s father had some health problems and she had to visit her maternal house very frequently and ultimately was not able to help and support her husband during the problem. Very soon, they both started having problems in their marital life which in turn spoiled the professional life of Presto. Because they both were very much compatible with each other, they are still together. But Presto still feels that if he had postponed his marriage for some time, things would have been much better for them in economical and social terms.
In order to analyze the chart for relationships and compatibility thereof, I need the birth details i.e. date of birth, time of birth and place of birth of both persons. Then, first I need to ascertain whether the provided birth details especially time of birth matches with the person concerned and if required some adjustment has to be done accordingly. Thereafter, I can provide the analysis in accordance with the aspects discussed above. This is a sensitive and very importance aspect and, therefore, takes time. Usually, it takes me around 4-7 days to judge the compatibility and other aspects in the chart and thereafter, I can email the whole analysis. I do not provide the birth chart or any other pure astrological information in my analysis. You can see the sample analysis for marital aspects to know what you will be getting in return for your money.